Am I too easy on her when she acts out at home?
Do I not put her in time out when I really should?
Is she getting these behaviors from rough housing with us?
Am I the horrible mother that I suddenly feel like?
Should I change the way that we discipline her?
My answer to all of these questions is NO. There is nothing wrong with my child and I will be talking to the director of the day care on Monday. Lauren isn't even two yet. This is normal expression. She is develpmentally on track. She does not know how to voice her frustrations and even though they say she is biting for no apparent reason does not mean in that cute little head of her that there is really no reason. I believe there is. We do not know what her thought process is and there is no way that we can start to speculate or God forbid label her in any way shape or form. Maybe she is bored and not being stimulated enough and needs to move to the next class before she turns too. That is one option that I am going to explore if her daycare is on board. But let me tell you something, if this is not adressed that we will be looking for other childcare options. I love this daycare and I really do like her teachers so this is very hard on me. They are the ones that I entrusted with my newborn baby when I went back to work when she was only 10 weeks old. They have cared for her, her entire life and I almost feel betrayed in some way. I feel bad enough leaving her there and going to work everyday. Mommy Guilt is something that I struggle with every single day and this just MAGNIFIES it to no end. I know they are just trying to help and I know that they love Lauren but I can't get this sinking feeling out of my gut.
Thank you all for your comments and your help and prayers. Please continue to pray for me so that when I go to talk to the director on Monday that I what I say is clear and we can get on the same page.
AND just when I think my life is awful I am reminded just how good I have it. Please pray for one of my niece's friends who is 6 and just had heart surgery. She is not doing very well and is in ICU on life support and is now first on the heart transplant list. Here I am complaining about my daughter's day care and they are fighting for their daughter's life. Please lift this family up in prayer.
7 comments:
I will pray for your niece's friend, poor little girl.
I will also pray for your comfort during this trying time. ((HUGS))
praying for your niece's friend! :) Hang in there on the daycare situation!
I'm glad you had some more time to think about the whole daycare thing. I hope everything goes well on Monday when you talk to the director, I will be praying that everyone involves has Lauren's best interest in mind!
Praying for your nieces friend, that is just heart breaking!
I am glad it sounds like you have made peace with all this. Just remember, you are her mom and you know what is best for her. Don't let other people make you doubt yourself or your little girl. You are both exactly who God intended you to be. I will pray for you and your nieces friend.
I have a degree in early childhood development and was once the director for a center who would send the child home for two weeks for biting.(If ongoing problem) Their rule made me SICK! What does that accomplish? ( I didn't work for them long ) I totally agree. There is something else going on... there is a reason for the biting. There is teething, there is boredness, it may be as a way of showing affection (imitating kissing). Over stimulation and lack of attention while in care can also cause such behavior....
Hope today went well for you!
I am sorry you are having troubles with your daycare. I agree talking to them is the best way to work it out, I hope things get better.
I am praying for your niece's Heart friend!
Praying for the little girl waiting a heart transplant!
My Baby Boy bites his siblings and us! He's gotten better, but it's like he rubs his face in on you and then bam he bites you. He's not in daycare, and he's never bitten in the nursery anywhere, but really this is something many kids do. I missed your earlier post on it, but I'm sure things will get better.
And also Baby Boy loves going with the older kids in the nursery! That's what they do when he screams for me, they take him out with the big kids, I think this might be partially because he has older siblings, but it may be worth addressing! Praying you are able to get all worked out!
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